In Memory

Emily Ann Stonkey

 

 

 

 

William G. Basralian Funeral Home, Hawthorne, NJ 

http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/northjersey/obituary.aspx?n=emily-stonkey&pid=154013098

 

 



 
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08/27/14 10:17 PM #1    

Lee Bennett Berman

I have no recollection of Emily in Pascack Valley and little recollection of her in grade school.  I remember her well from Blair and Dean dance studio where my parents sent me to learn ballroom dancing during 8th grade.  I did not enjoy dancing and had little aptitude for it.  There was a girl, Cornelia, who was a head taller than I.  I danced with her dutifully as required.  Emily was beautiful,  with a round face, clear complexion, blue eyes and shiny hair.  She had a quiet niceness which worked well with my 14 year old imagination.  When I put my arm around her to dance it felt wonderful.  Lee Berman


02/09/17 12:45 PM #2    

Regina (Gina) Roth (Susek)

I have been reading through all of the ""In Memory"'s. It really, really saddens me that we have lost so many wonderful, innocent (at the time),  smiling, joyful (in there own way)  fellow students. Cancer or accidents have taken far too many. I am one of the lucky ones to have survived early stage breast cancer in the past decade.

I used to have lunch with Emily and D. Weis and several other girls senior year. We were always so kind to each other and that made "cafateria" time pass quickly and happily enough. Emily was truly one of the gentlest, kindest, thoughtful, and  one of the most sensitive people I have ever met. She was just like my  close friend P.R. from Freshman year. I was shocked when her "In Memory" was posted. I know that she felt things on such a deep, deep level. Good for her that she was an expert skier. One could never get me near a ski slope, even the "bunny" slope. I am happy that she passed suddenly instead of having a long drawn out suffering as her obit says. Rest in Peace, you lovely girl.   


02/18/18 03:05 PM #3    

Joanna Oleson

Emily and I went to grade school and high school together, but it was through working at the old “Holiday House” at the rest stop on the GSP in Montvale that we got to know each other.  (I seem to remember we got .50 an hour, plus the fabulous tips, of course!) 

On one shift, the guys in the kitchen were teasing Emily and giving her a rough time. Emily was sensitive, and also very self-assured.   Not to be the “done-to” party in that interaction, she confidently rose to assertively address the situation and turned the power dynamic around.  I will always remember that moment as Emily stood up to them and clearly and forcefully set limits and raised awareness.

Another memory, Emily and her sister Sharon said they could pierce my ears! I entered their house, which they had somehow transformed to look like a gypsy caravan. They had the necessary implements:  rubbing alcohol, a fork to press against the front of my ear lobe, and a cork behind the ear lobe. We used earrings I had bought in Greenwich Village, with special point for piercing. 

Yeah, I might have been a little apprehensive but they were so wonderful, and had created such an amazing atmosphere and story, that it was a just a great experience that I remember all these years later.

Ever since reading the notice here, I have been deeply saddened to know that Emily has left us. It would have been wonderful to reconnect with her when we were both back in the area.  Emily always helped me see things a little differently and helped me grow and move forward.  Talk about being fearless in the face of change, adversity, and wonder- it would be great to watch the Olympic ski events with her.  


02/18/18 10:38 PM #4    

Maria Grassi (Coppola)

Never spoke a word... but simply Beautiful face...                                                                       I 

I Love what Lee wrote...

 

 


02/21/18 11:06 AM #5    

Marina Givotovsky (Givotovsky)

My sister and I were friends with Emily in highschool. I think Lee Berman's memory of ballroom dancing with her is wonderful. She was a very poised , thoughtful, kind person. I still have a lovely painted wooden box she gave me as a gift from a Polish import store we used to go to on East 57th  Street. We played tennis in the summer and she shared our appreciation of the arts. We spoke on the phone a lot when she moved to Hawthorne, New Jersey. She loved her apartment and going to Greenwood lake with her partner Robert. May she rest in peace.

 


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